There’s no worse feeling in the world. At first, being in love with someone who then breaks up with you and crushes your heart feels worse than being stabbed in the gut. Nobody ever tells you how to deal with that initial feeling, how to get through that first day after the dreaded words “I just don’t want to be with you anymore”. You’ll find yourself defending them, justifying their actions and telling everybody you loved them and thought you’d spend your life with them. But whilst you come to terms with the shit storm that is heartbreak, relax because the HUSH gang have pulled together to find the best tips to get you through and give you a small boost in your time of need…
- MANAGE YOUR MEALS
Some people feel better after binging on a multipack of KitKats or getting a large maccies order delivered on Uber Eats. Others can’t stomach a thing and can’t do for days on end. If this happens, we suggest trying to remember to eat. We know it can be hard when all you want to do is curl up in a ball in bed all day, but food will keep you strong and maintain your health.
- KEEP THAT PEACHY ASS BUSY
The first day after going through a breakup is always the hardest, and we know you won’t want to leave bed let alone the house. But a change of surroundings will take your mind off it, so we suggest going to your local shop, or if it’s a nice day, have a walk down your road with a friend or your mum. Fresh air always makes you feel fresher.
- SURROUND YOURSELF WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY
When your heart has been broken into little pieces, the last thing you need to be doing is spending all your time alone. Invite your friends round to cheer you up, or watch some TV with your parents. You won’t feel like socialising, but trust us, you’d be surprised at what a few mates telling you “he aint shit” can do. But remember to take time for yourself alone. Only you know what you’re going through so your own company in small doses will let you think and understand what’s really going on.
- KEEP IT PRIVATE
Telling other people is often said to be the hardest part of a breakup; admitting to people that they just didn’t want you anymore can be terrifying. In the first 24 hours, we suggest keeping the information to as few people as you think best. Having people constantly message you “you ok hun, what happened between you two?” sometimes makes the situation worse. Tell enough people to ensure you have people around you who love you, but keep it at initially.
- STAY OFF YOUR PHONE HUNNY
We know you’re going to be tempted to check if he’s texted you, but THEY AINT WORTH THAT!! Also, checking social media and seeing other people put happy relationshippy insta’s up can make you feel worse. Staying off Facebook and Snapchat until you feel up to watching other people go on living their happy lives is for the best.
- STICK ON YOUR FAVOURATE TV SHOW
You know that show you have watched time and time again and know all the words to it? Yeah, that’s the perfect thing to put on the TV. Surround yourself with friends or family and instead of curling up in a ball in bed thinking of them, curl up watching your favourite characters – if nothing else, it will take your mind of it for a little while which is important.
- HAVE A RELAXING BATH
Get your bezzie mate or your mum to run you a bubble bath, with some yummy bath bombs can work a treat. The saying goes, clean body clean mind, and a shower or bath will freshen you up. Psychologist Neil Morris says that bathing makes you feel less pessimistic and boosts your mood. Research suggests that bathing can reduce inflammation, help you sleep better, soothe muscle problems and help with depression, just the things you need after a breakup.
- And the last and most important tip is… CRY IT OUT BABY
Crying might be seen as a way of increasing sadness, but it actually acts as a self-soothing mechanism. Scientists say when you shed tears, they release oxytocin and endorphins into your body, chemicals which make you feel good which eases emotional pain. After a long cry, you will be able to sleep better and maybe even feel a little more self-soothed.
REMEMBER – it hurts now and it will hurt for a while, but it WILL GET BETTER. LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU ARE AMAZING AND STRONG AND BEAUTIFUL.
– love HUSH XXXXX